The Magic Of Making Up – Why You Need To Dump Your Relationship
When someone gets dumped pure logic goes out the window. That’s a given and any suggestion of keeping a cool head is usually met with disdain.
The truth is, a cool head must prevail for two reasons. It will give you time to get over the ugliness which is building inside you through panic and desperation and more importantly, by having a calm mind, you can be better placed to look at your relationship with more objectivity.
What are we talking about? Quite simply, it may very well be that you and your ex may not be right for each other any more. Too many people are prepared to rush back into a relationship without thinking about the future.
Many claim during the emotional stage of being dumped that they need their ex and wouldn’t be able to go on without them. But unless they take some time out and asses the negatives and the positives of their relationship how could they know for sure.
Get Your Head Screwed On Right
T W Jackson may lack the credentials of a Harvard graduate in human psychology and he readily admits he’s just one of your average “yokels” but what he does know is relationships and the Magic Of Making Up Book is fair proof of that.
Jackson is a big advocate of taking time out when you are on the outer in a relationship. In fact, this is the first crucial move in getting your ex back if that’s what your aim is.
And that brings us to another important point in break ups. Too many times people will do anything to be accepted back in the fold yet a short time down the track, they’re on the outer again.
Distancing yourself from your ex and your relationship at the moment is all about avoiding situations where your panic and desperation could lead you to take drastic action which will further harm your chances of a reconciliation.
In other words, despite the obvious pain you’re feeling right now, jumping back into the fire too hastily could be the precursor to further pain down the track.
Being Objective About Your Ex
Well, think of the reasons your relationship disintegrated and whether they can be rectified with a reconciliation. Now is the time for you to be completely objective about your ex and your relationship. Jackson points to things in the Magic Of Making Up Book such as removing any emotions from your objectivity when analyzing where the relationship failed.
Look at both the positives and negatives in an objective fashion. If there are faults about your ex which bother you then write them down.
What started out in fairy tale fashion could have simply disintegrated in to a break up because you simply are not compatible anymore.
Jackson says in the Magic Of Making Up Book, a relationship can be destroyed by a series of small problems which have built up over time.
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