How To Rescue Your Relationship – Why Your Relationship Is Dead In The Water!
Being on the receiving end of a dumping is one of the worst experiences a person can experience.
A relationship dumping can hurt like hell but the truth is, unless you temper any thoughts of panic and desperation, then you are likely to become just a memory in the mind of your ex.
Yes, it’s a test of character because the first reaction is one of shock which quickly turns to disbelief and eventually anger. It’s like…”Why you…who do you think you are that you can just dump me like this?”
Face it, you’re dumped but the good news is, you can be back where you want to be sometimes quicker than the moment of release may indicate.
T W Jackson has some forthright views in how to save your relationship in his classic, The Magic Of Making Up and one of them is simply to remain calm and agree with the split. Walk away and stay away for at least a month.
In this article, we want to highlight not so much what you should do; this is covered in expert fashion in The Magic Of Making Up – but more what you shouldn’t do. By avoiding the “do nots” below, you can create a solid foundation from which to spring board back into the arms of your ex sometime in the future.
How To Save Your Relationship
If you want to know how to save your relationship then it’s important to understand what you shouldn’t do before starting the reconciliation process.
If you avoid some of the things we are about to mention, then you can avoid that feeling of having the noose around your neck tightening the more you struggle. Let’s face it, isn’t that what it feels like.
No matter how hard you try and make your ex see the error of their ways the more that invisible rope tightens. It feels like you are fighting a losing battle and reality is, you are.
So here’s how to keep that noose around your neck from tightening and eventually removed:
- Stop trying to force the issue. You’ve been dumped and there’s nothing you can do or say to change your ex’s mind for the time being.
- Stop calling them. Stop emailing or text messaging them. They dumped you because they want a break from you. Right at this moment, you are the last person they want to hear from.
- Don’t harass their friends or family for information or to get sympathy. Ask yourself this, in a crunch, whose side are they likely to be on?
- Avoid the temptation to present yourself at places your ex likes to hang out. This is a big no-no.
- Avoid the sympathy vote method. In other words, forget telling your ex how much you miss them and you cannot go on without them. This doesn’t work and is ugly behavior and anyone who tells you it’s a foolproof way on how to save your relationship is kidding themselves.
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