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Get Back An Ex – The Sneaky Ways To Get An Ex Back

Trying to win back the favor of an ex is a mission in acting cool in a crisis and not showing your hand too quickly. To get an ex back feelings of desperation and panic need to be tempered otherwise the mission will probably back fire.

If this sounds like a game of espionage it is in a way, but there is good cause for taking this route. The relationship was ended for a reason on the part of your ex for a reason and many fall for the trap of thinking it’s just a passing phase and they’ll come to their senses quickly.

However, this is not the case most of the time and you’ve got to realize the situation is serious, and act accordingly. And that means seeing it from their point-of-view and not yours.

Think The Opposite

If you are on mission to get back an ex then you may need to go the counter intuitive route rather than what you really want to do. You’re probably thinking “what’s wrong with that?” Plenty and one of the first things that comes to mind is you’re not giving your ex time to miss you.

By constantly “being on their hammer” about wanting to get back with them, then it’s like being pitched by a pushy salesperson. How do you feel when you walk into a used car showroom or a major department store and someone walks up and starts sales pitching you?

Does that make sense?

5 Things To Consider

Let’s look at some of the things you need to do to get an ex back into your life.

1. Going out and enjoying yourself and being noticed by their friends means that this will get back to your ex. The point here is that if it seems you’ve moved on faster than they have then this may not sit right with them.

2. Be a friend to your ex. Let them know you are enjoying life at the moment but don’t hammer home to them everything you are doing to be happy. This could make them a little jealous but also let them know that there’s plenty to enjoy in life. By coming across as a friend in this manner will score you plenty of “brownie points.” It shows you still care about them.

3. Maybe let them know you had a blast the other night with a group of friends.

4. Be a listener when you talk with them. This is a powerful strategy when trying to get back with an ex. Listen to what they have to say and be genuine about it. This will have the effect of them valuing your ability to listen to them.

5. Do this for some time. You are redeveloping a relationship with them. Even though your aim is to get back together with your ex the power of this strategy, although a little sneaky is the value they place in your friendship. Truth is, it’s doubtful in many cases if you’ll even need to make the first move!

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