Dating Advice For Women - The Three C’s Of Attracting A Guy
Posted on August 23, 2008 in the Dating category
Whether you are a single woman looking to hook a guy , or you are a woman in a relationship trying to keep him on the hook – the art of attraction is going to be a big part of your arsenal of female wiles. Attraction, in the dating and mating world, is so much more than a good lipstick and a killer pair of shoes. It is the ART of learning to Catch Him and Keep Him and - to a guy , attraction consists of three basic elements of the female personality.
Now don’t get me wrong – men ARE visual creatures and I know this. So looking your best will certainly get you in the door. But what attracts a guy AFTER that initial contact? Or – better yet – what can attract a guy IN SPITE of the initial contact?
Three things, ladies. Confidence, command and completion – the three C’s of attraction. The best thing about these three attributes is that you DON’T have to look like Barbie to have them – and use them.
Ok, let’s get right to it. Confidence – why would a guy want confidence? Doesn’t that make you more…well…manly? Nope. A guy will be attracted to a confident woman because that confidence tells him that you are valuable (alpha female), intelligent and STRONG. This, ladies, is evolution. The survival of the fittest. Men want a woman (and not be suggesting you sleep with every guy you date, by far, but each encounter has the POTENTIAL of becoming a life-mate) who has the potential to carry on his genes and produce strong, viable offspring. This is called being the Alpha Female, and she is at the top of the stack. All the males want her.
Next – she commands respect. To many women , this sounds a LOT like confidence. It is – with one exception. Your confidence it completely an inner game thing, which shows on the outside. Commanding respect, however, means that you teach others how to treat you – what you will and will not accept. I’m not saying go around giving orders to people – but if you are in a situation that may compromise your integrity – say so, be bold.
The third thing is completion. Christian Carter really emphasizes this in his eBook and his Natural and Lasting Attraction program, and I think this may be one of the most important elements of attraction. You need to be able to be complete without a guy . You need to have your own interests, you r own likes and dislikes, and your own schedule. I see SO many women just …morph….into their partner. They learn to like what he likes, they do everything that he does, etc. Now, stretching your tastes to learn to encompass his own is FINE. But – one of the most important pieces of dating advice for women out there is to RETAIN your own INDIVIDUALITY.
And you know what – if he is watching football and you are so bored you are thinking of waxing your underarms – go find something else to do! Don’t do it in a huffy way or anything, just go grab a book, finish a project or take a nap. It’s not insulting to him; it is showing him that you are your own person.
So remember the three C’s – confidence, commanding and completion. Master these – and you will find your relationships running much smoother, in every way. For more dating advice for women - check out Christian Carter’s eBook - Catch Him and Keep Him, it is FULL of fantastic advice on getting a guy and keeping him.
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